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FAKE TITS- EEWWWW!!!!!!!!
I cant stand when people assume my tits are fake. It's like wearing a diamond and having people insist it’s a cubic zirconium. But I’m more insulted that someone would mistake me for being that fucked up in the head with seriously misplaced values. What I hate more is when people say ‘well, that’s easy for you to say – you were blessed with perfect ones’… FUCK YOU!!!!!!! That’s awful assumptive and you don’t know anything about me. First of all, I was a VERY late bloomer – I didn’t get my period till I was17!!!!! I didn’t get a lick of chest till later that year and it was only a few mosquito bites. Most girls start getting their tits as early as 9-10 or definitely by 13 – so I went many important years past that time having already accepted I would probably not have any more tits as an adult. It took me a moment to adjust to that fact but I understood there was absolutely nothing I could do to change it. I realized I had too many other things to be thankful for and that the world was bigger than me and my little boobs. I didn’t grow up in a culture that cared too much about breast size, so after a while I found something else to obsess over (my acne). In fact, all of my friends will tell you I was VERY skinny; almost had a boys body for most of high school. However I was so used to being so flat-chested, for so long, that I barely noticed once my tits started to fill out. They actually didn’t stop growing until I was about 22. I was still squeezing into my 32A padded bra and as it got tighter and tighter and tighter I realized ‘hey, I’m pretty medium sized now’ – until then, I would look at the 34B bra’s and think ‘I could never fill that cup’..lol…. so, my point is don’t dismiss my values as something resulting from the fact I have a great body today. I learned to accept and love my body long before it looked like this. In fact I didn’t get these ‘curves’ until later in my life when my metabolism finally slowed down a bit – I discovered that when I gain weight it goes straight to my tits and my ass, as long as I am working out regularly. So don’t put that perfect breast shit on me – THAT’S NOT MY HANG-UP!!!!!! I don’t care if I do or if I don’t, I will love my body as long as it is healthy – I am so much more than a pair of perfect tits. And I place a MUCH HIGHER value on my intangible attributes than I do my physical attributes which I KNOW are ONLY temporary!!. Besides most of the sexiest women in the world don’t have large breasts – some of the women that I most admire or lust after and think are sexy as HELL are barely a B-cup – a la BEYONCE or JENNIFER LOPEZ – they are sex icons and they are small breasted so where in the world does everyone get this shit where they empathize with a girl who feels it’s some kind of traumatic ‘affliction’ to NOT have double D’s????????? WHAT THE FUCK?! Bigger breasts do not cure lack of self-esteem.
While I’m on the subject, I might as well not hold back. Keep reading to learn more that bugs the fuck out of me and why I feel so strongly about it..
1) If you feel inadequate as a woman, the problem to address is in your head, not your chest. Self esteem first, cosmetics after! If you ignore that, you are doomed to disappointment. A lot of people who think a cosmetic change like this is going to fix their lives end up despondent and suicidal when they find they're still the same person with the same life. This is such a common problem that cosmetic surgeons have to pay a lot of attention to weeding out patients who might be suicide risks. Getting chest surgery to improve your self-esteem is like buying a girdle to improve your eyesight: you're addressing the wrong problem.
2) Breasts probably have a wider range of natural healthy variation than any other body part... and we seem to be trying to forget this. If we act as if only one subset of the range of variation is good -- as the entertainment and advertising industries are currently doing -- we condone and reinforce a mindset that says ordinary people are defective. We distort our sense of what is normal and end up treating healthy people (including ourselves) as if they were pitiable freaks. Every additional person who gets that surgery adds to the marginalization of those who don't.
3) Treating your own normal body as being defective is an act of self-hatred. (That doesn't mean you feel hatred for yourself... but the way you feel about yourself is as much a result of such actions as a cause of them.) Acting on this in a public way and flaunting the results before everyone rubs this off on other people; it becomes not only self-hatred but an act that carries hatred to other women. You're like Michael Jackson bleaching his skin and having his nose narrowed -- the message that sends to other African-Americans is hardly a positive one.
4) What the fuck do you think you're really accomplishing by getting implants? If you examine your goals, you may find they are not very rational or realistic. Unless you're a stripper or are dedicating your whole life to the goal of marrying an elderly millionaire, the implants are probably not going to bring you much closer to what you really want. What are you really after? You'd better take a hard look at that question before you act on the assumption that implants will get it for you.
5) If you want more male attention, implants may increase the quantity but only with a corresponding decrease in quality. You'll probably get your biggest gains in approval among guys who are most prone to objectifying you, and least prone to treating you as an equal. The guys who like implants the best are those who prefer pornography to live women, and probably find ordinary women a turn-off if they're not somehow artificialized by things like fake hair, shaving, ridiculous shoes, and so on. Implants can be very artificializing.
6) If you want to like your body better, the way to do it is to start liking the body you've got better. If your mindset toward your body is negative, no change of appearance will ever eliminate that! If you think it will, you end up chasing an illusion. When you are in the habit of always finding fault with your body, you will never run out of faults to find... indeed, you'll only find more and more as you get older. It's a trap, and changing your body won't get you out of it -- the one thing that will is to change the fault-finding way of treating yourself. If I treated you that way, I'd be an intolerable asshole... so why treat yourself that way? If you keep hitting your forehead with a rock, that doesn't mean you need a tougher forehead -- it means it's time to put down the rock.
7) If you want a spicier love life... Jesus Christ, if you think implants will help there, I suggest you stick your head into a bucket of ice water until you come to your senses. The only way implants ever help people's love lives is as a temporary crutch to get over inhibitions caused by body shame. This effect wears off. The only lasting way to remove such shame and inhibition is to tackle them directly -- for instance, to just start unconditionally refusing to view yourself as something to be ashamed of, and then working with whatever obstacles come up in trying to stick to that. It's slow to change but nothing can stop you if you stick to that decision. (And incidentally, it just might revolutionize your whole life.)
8) There are studies that use psychological tests to measure self-esteem changes after getting breast implants. Some found a slight improvement after three years, other tests found no change at all. The tests that found a slight improvement did not compare the sample group with a control group of people who didn't get surgery, to check against how much people tend to gain in self-esteem just by living. (Usually it's young people who have the most trouble with self-esteem.)
9) The worst time to get implants is when you're young. You already have a body that, in twenty years, you will wish you had. And yet when you're older you may be far more immune to the wishful thinking that tells you that a body part bought from a store shelf can improve your life. Imagine yourself twenty or forty years older and full of wisdom about life. What do you think that wiser future self would tell you to do? For that matter, imagine if you could ask God for an opinion. What do you think God would suggest as the wisest and truest course for your life? If the answer you get is different from what you think you want, that shows that something inside you actually knows better. Ignore that deeper wisdom at your peril.
10) Boob jobs cost a lot of money. If you're not rich, giving yourself implants means depriving yourself of something else quite substantial, which might do you more good.
11) Boob jobs are like stage makeup: they look good at a distance. They look better on you from 50 feet than from 10 feet, better from 10 feet than from one foot, better in a photograph or video than in real life, and better with more clothing than they do with less. They're at their worst when the distance is most intimate.
12) The more we see blown-up boobs, the more we learn to recognize them instead of being fooled. The more we learn to recognize them, the less attractive they are. The more people are exposed to these bug-eye bosoms, the more often they are going to start seeing them as unattractive instead of as appealing. I've been seeing them that way for years now.
13) If I am not making myself clear, let me spell it out right now: implants are fucking ugly! Implants only look good on the level of first impressions. Expect people in your life to react with an initial charge followed by a gradual accumulation of disgust. Anyone who likes you over the long term will do so in spite of them, not because of them -- the same as they would if you had a glass eye.
14) Then again maybe you won't, because your implants probably won't last until then. Those who know say that anyone who gets implants should not keep them more than ten or fifteen years without either removing them or replacing them with a fresh set. This is because the container, though it's rugged when new, loses its strength and eventually becomes fragile. That means more surgery, with more expense and more risk... but not as much risk as leaving the old ones in place until they break or their contents leak out. One reason the rate of implant surgery keeps rising is because at least half of them are repeats.
Even if your body were absolutely perfect in every respect, you'd have to lose all your perfect traits one by one as you got older, until in the end you lose everything and your body can't even stay alive. There is no reward at the end of the pursuit of a physical ideal, and if we set ourselves up in competition with everyone around us, there is no way to win. No matter what, we have to live with shortcomings and find a way to be happy with them, sooner or later. Why not sooner?
For even more reasons not to get a boob job go here http://gning.org/more-reasons.html . Or to see gross pictures of boob jobs gone bad go here http://www.siliconeholocaust.org/photos1a.html . And whatever you – DON’T EVER ASK ME IF MY TITS ARE REAL!!! But do pass this on to any shallow, insecure chicks you think might benefit from some of this information.
Peace - Rita G
Rita G. is one of the most popular
models in the world. Her appearances, and subsequent airings
on Howard Stern’s E! Network television show in late 2003,
were among the highest rated ever, causing them to be
repeated faster than any other Stern episodes up to that
time. Since then, she has appeared as a correspondent for
BET (Black Entertainment Television), appeared on radio with
Dr. Dre, and Hot 97 out of NYC, appeared in dozens of
magazines, including the cover of the nationally syndicated
Smooth Girl magazine. Rita has also been featured in
Playboy, and in December 2005 was named the new Sex/Advice
Columnist for Playboy's "Special Edition"
Magazine. She is featured on her website, www.rita-g.com.
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