Are My Boobs Too Small?

An insult leads to Jenn’s question

(This CLASSIC SEX CRAP column first appeared @ E-Crap on 2/25/2003)

Finally, over a month later, I get to write this column. Had I not been advised of a certain new website, I might still be waiting to write it. This column is based on an event that happened before the Christmas holiday, 2002, but since then, so much has happened (see my last few columns) that this one had to be repeatedly put on hold. Until now.

Before I dive into the new column, flash back to my first (and last) column about breast size (Jenn’s Big Boobs Theory). I always knew I’d do a follow-up one day. Then came a party invitation from my stripper friend. If you are a regular Sex Crap reader, she is the gal I met at a party, interviewed (Interview with a Stripper), then went to see "perform" and nearly got into my first true bi-sexual experience (Jenn Gets a Lap Dance). While that last meeting made me a little uncomfortable (and horny), we stayed in touch via e-mail. Until, that is, she invited me to a "very happening and sexy" holiday party being thrown by the strip club’s owner. How could I pass on that one?

The party was strange. It more resembled a Halloween party than a Christmas party. The guests included many strippers, many guys who seemed to be investment banker-types, and a few other seedy characters. One of them was named Tony, and he looked every bit a Tony. He had slicked-back hair, a Guido-outfit, and the most annoying personality. For whatever reason, he kept following me around. He assumed I was a stripper (I certainly looked the part that night), and I did nothing to convince him otherwise. He was in some form of porn business, and he was sure I had a future – "though maybe the t*ts could be a little bigger," he remarked. I smiled, nodded, and told him my pimp was watching me from across the room (I pointed), and I probably shouldn’t be talking about such things, and excused myself. I found the closest mirror, just to confirm what I already knew – my t*ts looked just fine!

While I never really thought about Tony again after that night, I did think about writing another column about breasts. Then, I was told about a website, www.givemeboobs.com. A seemingly normal, 35 year old woman in New York State (with children and an adorable 4-month-old cocker spaniel) was asking for donations from readers so that she could get a boob job. Her bio states that she just left an emotionally abusive marriage, where her husband continually ridiculed the size of her breasts, especially after she had children. It seemingly left her feeling bad about her appearance, and her sexuality. And she felt to get back that sexuality, she needed to increase the size of her breasts.

Being the journalist that I am, I knew I needed to contact her. I had questions to ask her, and I wanted to know more about her quest. Honestly, I wanted to sit down with her, and find out a little more about her from a humanistic viewpoint. Fortunately, it was easy to contact her, and equally fortunate was that it turned out she loved the E-Crap.com website! She was willing to answer all of my questions, and here is what we discussed.

Jenn: What has the feedback generally been like since your site went live?
Aimee: Well, as probably presumed, most of the e-mails I've received have been from the male gender. Most commenting on "not" changing a thing that I look fine the way I am. A few actually asked to meet and go out. A small group offered their honest and considerate opinions; those are mainly the ones that have shown their support by donating. The females on the other hand haven't been as gracious (which I expected). Their comments have been mostly negative and somewhat harsh in the way they were presented.

Jenn: Has anyone said or written anything that has made you consider shutting the site down?
Aimee: Not really, I truly knew going into this that there would be an abundance of varying opinions. Which I have to say I enjoy reading. I did not expect everyone to support nor fully understand my quest and the reasons why.

Jenn: Use five (5) separate words to describe yourself.
Aimee:
* Trustworthy
* Loyal
* Independent
* Intelligent
* Caring

Jenn: Have you ever considered contacting Howard Stern for implants, since he tends to give away a set pretty much every day?
Aimee: A few of the e-mails I've received also suggested contacting Howard Stern. I was worried that Howard, like Hustler magazine (which contacted me for an interview), would want full photos including my face or person to person meetings. One thing I strongly considered when developing the site, was my "Anonymity". I will not waiver, barter, or change my mind on that. Even if it means losing the opportunity to receive extensive publicity or maybe even the actual implants. I will remain strong on that respect to protect myself and most importantly my children.

Jenn: If my column sends you enough donations, will you consider letting me release exclusive before/after photos?
Aimee: As I mentioned, I feel very strongly about my Anonymity. I do not have any problem with supplying you with before/after photos; they however would not include my face. I do realize that that in turn can discourage those from donating, but I'm sorry to say, that is something I am not willing to compromise.

Jenn: I have often written my thoughts on this subject, but why do YOU think many men put a high emphasis on a woman's chest size?
Aimee: Jenn, I certainly am no therapist, and the only comments I had ever received in regards to my chest, were "Why on earth did he bother giving you anything!" of course that was from my ex. Which I can see now, was no "real" man? I think that magazines, commercials, etc..., portray these women to seem as if they're more poised, secure, and happier with themselves. That's not to say that it is entirely due to "their rack", but I'm sure it helps. This in turn turns the man on, not only seeing the nice cleavage, but the confidence that she emits I'm sure is also very attractive and alluring.

Jenn: Do you feel bigger breasts will equate to better sex?
Aimee: In my opinion, I guess if a woman feels better about her body, then that would minimize the thoughts of inadequacy during sex. She would perhaps then concentrate more on her sexual desires, feel more sensual, and as I'd like to think; put her mind and body entirely into the pleasure, experience, and excitement of having sex.

Jenn: Do you think or hope that having bigger breasts will release sexual energy and passions you never knew you had?
Aimee: I certainly hope so?? Ha-ha… To this day… I feel as if I've lived in a shell, sexually I mean. Never feeling good enough in bed, always boring, never wanting to be seen naked…and definitely not sexy or enticing to any man. I know it's somewhere in me? The way I see it, since I've already improved on the inside a bit, I feel that now improving the physical outer aspects would give me that extra added boost of confidence which would help me to release hidden, built up sexual energy, and passion that I've never experienced or knew I had before.

Jenn: How much do you love my column? And E-Crap in general? (what an ego I have :)
Aimee: I think your column is very informative and entertaining, I especially like the way you try to bring the reader into the topic. While maybe discussing your own experiences, the reader can certainly relate, well.... I often times can. Perhaps it's due to the fact that I feel so inadequate in regards to "sex", I truly enjoy reading the stories, tid-bits, and facts on it, who knows maybe I can learn a thing or two while scoping the site! Ha-ha

Without question, during the interview, Aimee seemed to exhibit the very five words she used to describe herself. Was I surprised? Perhaps. Was she being honest? Who knows? Is her site (like others that have featured a similar idea) even legitimate? Who knows? I encourage my readers to check out the site and make your own judgments. I thought the idea was interesting enough to bring out into the open here, and I trust that my readers are smart enough to make their own decisions and draw their own conclusions. Her site (again) is www.givemeboobs.com.

And while Aimee’s interview certainly gave me some insight into one woman’s perceived need for bigger breasts, she is just that, one woman in a very large world. I was still not convinced that when push comes to shove (and honesty), men are that consumed with bigger breasted women. In case you did not click on the referenced links above (and specifically the one to my last breast column), my breasts are about a 34C, though sometimes I fit better with a 34B bra (fine, I often fit better with the B cup – smile). I am very happy with mine, and feel they are just the right size. I can honestly say that I probably would be okay with slightly smaller, or slightly bigger boobs. But if men had a choice, would the masses go for bigger, smaller, or average?

According to a poll at www.actiontrip.com of nearly 20,000 respondents, 40% said they prefer a C cup for their ideal woman. 18% chose B cup, and more than 10% chose A or AA. When you combine these numbers, nearly 70% chose a C cup or less, and nearly 30% chose a B cup or less. This does not seem to validate that "regular" (and hopefully honest) men are consumed with big breasts. On a separate poll at the same website (and a much smaller sample), nearly 80% of the men chose a "very pretty gal with small to medium breasts" against 20% choosing "barely attractive but with gorgeous and huge boobs."

Further Internet searches proved tiresome, and quite annoying. There are hundreds of sites relating to small boobs, but the first few I clicked on produced so many pop-up ads that I had to repeatedly reboot and clear my cache! But rest assured, if you have a small boob fetish, there are many sites that will whet your appetite. I did come across a "Dear Abby" type letter that was sent into Salon.com by a 60+ year old woman, with an "Aimee" like concern. Here is the link if you wish to read it – At her age?

I think I have written enough on the subject. I am all "boobed" out! Write me and tell me what YOU think!